A home is a sanctuary

I have met many guys who were abusive with their words and cheat everything out of you. Their words don’t carry any weight. It adds on to the insecurity i have when what they turns out to be lies.

I used to like what i see and not whats inside of a man. I was superficial. I ended off relationships over things that are not important. Like a veggie in the teeth, too goofy, not good looking enough, and bad dressing sense.

I used to like a guy for the way they walk, the way they talk and the way they know how to say sweet words.

I got to know my soul mate. He does not know how to say sweet words. But he does not abuse me with his words. He is not the best looking guy in the world. But he thinks i am the most best looking person in the world, even when i have veggie in my teeth. We were like poles apart.

He likes to sleep early, i like to sleep late. He loves things proper, i love things that are not fixed. I love to eat good food, he thinks eating is just to fill the stomach. He eats chicken without the skin and i will eat the skin. He loves to keep fit, i love to laze around and read a book. His definition of reading something is the magazine.

He likes thing neat, i like things neat. He washes the dishes, i wash the dishes. he wash the clothes and i fold the clothes. When i am sad, he knows it. Before i say anything sometimes, he speak whats in my mind. He does not try to solve my problem when i share them. He remembers what i tell him. He tries his best to do what i like. He is my best friend. We have no secrets.

One day, i remembered of my desire of going overseas to do some humanitarian work. He used to object to it strongly. When i brought the matter up again. He said, put his name in the emergency contact list. Cos if anything happens to me, he will want to take care of me for the rest of his life.

I am also having hair loss problem because i used Dove shampoo that is not suitable for all hair types. Some pp will get allergic reactions to it. I tried to ignore it cos my family has thick hair, and i did not want to face the reality that i am balding. My hair will itch and lots will hair will come off when i comb. He forced me to use another shampoo and bought me another. I wanted to save money and used Dove till it finished and used the new one. When he knew about it, i got a scolding.

Yesterday, my scalp itched very badly and i went to the salon to have it washed. The hairdresser says its a common hair problem that needs treatment. Each $45. preferably to do it once every 2 weeks. The red spots on my scalp are the rash caused by allergy to chemicals.

I told him about it and he asked how often i need to do it? i said once a mth cos i cant afford once every 2 weeks. He said he will pay for every alternate treatment and asked me to buy the shampoo that the salon offers and he will pay for it too. He says he wants me to have nice hair.

Sometimes despite all his boringness and rigidity, he can really say the sweetest things