A letter to my...

I am always the type of person who believes appreciating someone for their efforts rather than gifts. I have always thought that it would be so nice to have a new family that has dinner every week. With home cooked food. I understand now, you don't like to put in effort unless it is to your fancy. You like to use money to replace the effort u cant give.

Since young, though my grandmother has a kitchen god altar in her kitchen, she has never asked us to hold a joist stick or offer gifts to the altar.

Though she brought us to her buddhist scripture study gathering, my brother and i were not asked to join in their rituals. Except for enjoying the delicious sweet potato soup after the gathering.

I remember her telling me not to drink cold drinks in the morning and often soft drinks is not good for health. Not to touch the cat while having my dinner. And that mushrooms are filled with lots of vitamins.

However, i do not remember her telling me not to eat chicken when i have a cough, or not to eat peanuts when i have a wound. I do not remember her telling me that someone born in a year of cow is clash with my zodiac signs.

So any of these that i've heard you saying...its the first i've heard in my life. You say you are very westernised and modern. I think my grandmother is more modern than you.

And if you think by telling me, you are 'educating' me...you are wrong. I have no intention to take them seriously or even follow them to any degree.

So don't tell me i should be doing this and that, when they are all related to stuff that i find absurd and have no intention of understanding. Because it has no reason.

And don't go on to say that if i don't follow, some bad thing will happen to me. Cos that will make me angrier. Because you are cursing me.

I have given up hope for u to be actively involved with my life as a mother in-law. So don't come saying you are afraid when the baby comes, u will be too tired to help me. And try to buy a confinement lady for me.

Admit it, you are lazy. if you are too tired then don't. A confinememt lady cannot replace you, your effort.

You know, my grandmother who is reaching her 80s is wanting to come over to help me, not only just to help. She is also eager to spend time with her great grandchild. She is not coming to make sure i follow tradition, by not bathing, not touching water etc.

So whats your intention of getting me a confinement lady?

Any of your intentions, if its something to do with something i dun believe in, pls stop forcing it down on me. Stop.But if your intention is to care for me and care for your grandchild, i will gladly let you do it.