20s to 60s

When you reach your 13 - 20s - you feel that everyone is looking at you and you feel awkward

When you reach your 30s - 40s - You accept that people are looking at you and live with it

When you reach your 40s - 50s - You have got enough of people looking at you and you are defensive about it

When you reach your 50s - 60s - You finally realised that right from the start, no one was actually looking at you. Then you begin to live life free from what people might think of you and just be yourself.

Do you wanna reach your 60s for you to realise that? Sometimes certain things in life are like the desserts that spice up your life but are not truly important in fulfilling life’s goals and purpose.

If i were to tell her this, what would he think? I think he wont like to see me in yellow, should i wear black instead? What if she gets angry? I got to have it because she has it and i feel left out if i dont. I am told i speak too loud, i need to talk softer. Then i am told i speak too soft, should i speak louder again?

Change not for others but for self-improvement. You cant please everyone at everytime. Listen to those who truly care for your growth and WILL give you worthy advice. I dont live my life eager to please but for my life to be pleasing to those who will be proud of me.

I wont ‘boot lick’ someone just to be in their favour but i will work my best and show that i am a doer and not just a talker.

I wont count my every step just because i am afraid to step on someone’s toes but i will move according to my goals and principles that will lead me there

Clementi adventure

20/6/08, i received an email from HDB notifying that i am selected to choose a flat in Clementi.

I found out that the estimated travel time via MRT was only 34 mins from Clementi - Buangkok. Not too bad.

The catch it that they only have 2 units left. One in #01-606 and #02-606. My mother in-law found out about it and starting giving me what she heard from people who stayed in 2nd floor. Mainly, she dwelt on all the negative. Surprisingly, all the examples she gave me were people staying either in Tampines or Pasir Ris.

In addition i stayed at Serangoon Ave 4 (2nd floor) for 15 years and i have never had my flat flooded with water or shit. Or have many mosquitoes all the time in the flat. All these she mentions are like myths to me.

I told my husband to be…be it 12th storey, 1st storey..all has its good and bad points.

My dad who is currently living in Bishan and also 2nd floor, offerred to take us there to view the place.

To my surprise, the area was already built. We asked one of the residents in #08-606 to let us view his house.

We viewed the 1st and 2nd floor and realised that the place was very windy. And the area really looks good. We were deciding on the 2nd floor.

Later when i went home, i realised that the evaluation #01 -606 $480000 and #02-606 $478000.

Too expensive!

The guy who allowed us to view his house…said they moved in 2 1/2 yrs ago and bought the flat for only $350000.

Sadly no matter how we were drooling over our new house…it flew out of our hands

In search for head cow

When i was in Thailand for holiday, while relaxing in the hotel room, i was watching Nat Geo.

A herd of african wild bulls are all infected with TB virus. A man wanted to breed a herd of wild bulls that were free from TB virus. As this virus will also infect other species including carnivores who feed on them.

His plan was to capture a herd of wild bulls. And in order to work his way in the herd, he has to work towards building a good relationship with the leader. Building that relationship is vital because if he wants to move the herd, the leader will move and the rest will follow.

He was successful in forging a good relationship with this she-bull.

There was a domineering bull that would like to charge at him. He runs to hide in a tree. The one that comes to rescue him from the tree was this she-bull.

I begin to realise a very impt fact in life. In a group, there is always a leader bull. He/She may not be your direct boss, but they are called the leader b’cos of their influence in the group. What they say can affect all. What they do, others will wanna follow.

I happen to work in a place where i spotted a few leaders. When you offend them, the whole office will start to hate you too.

This people are hateful but very impt in your strategic plans.

There are some people you dont need to ‘curry favour’ cos they dun bring you any benefit.

And there are some who are useful. These leaders are useful and its impt to be in their good books. (as much as possible)

Lastly, if you cannot out-smart them…tell yourself…they are the cows. Dont be like them. Join another herd. Its victory when you can be around them and not become like them.