The problem will solve by itself

I get allergic to phrases like,"The problem will solve by itself" or the Chinese idiom "once you reach a bridge, the bridge will be a straight path for you to walk."

Such phrases will only be used on others and not on yourself. Because man will always think the best for themselves. If it will hurt, they will do all it takes to help themselves and preventing suffering for themselves.

Phrases like that are used for things unimportant to them. Men likes to use such phrases when they quarrel with their girlfriends or wives. Cos to them, its simply not a matter worth discussing.

A man that saves up for a rainy day, will not use such a phrase on himself. He won't say,"Why think so far? Who knows what will happen to me. Don't think in the negative. Wait till i really need money, then i will think of a way. Or a solution will eventually appear at that time."
You will not say that because when you reach a problem, you do not want to be helpless. You want to protect yourself from that kind of pain.

A man that buys health insurance for himself will not use such a phrase for himself. He won't say,"Why think so far ahead. You never know if you will get cancer or get hospitalised. Maybe you will die peacefully in your sleep? When you get sick later than think about what to do. Who knows, you may have a successful career at that time and have no problem paying for medical bills."
You know that if you get sick and have no means of paying for your medical bills, you will suffer. And you don't want to suffer.

Why save up now? Just spend and think later. Why buy health insurance now when you may never need it? Just wait till something REALLY happen. Will you say that to yourself?

So i think that these phrases are irresponsible.

If you would plan for yourself 50 years down the road and it makes logical sense to you, don't say that kinda phrase to anyone just because you feel its not important to you.

Why bother about what that child grows up to be? She may grow up fine. Don't poke your nose into other people's business. Wait till something really bad happens to that child, by then its still not too late to help.

I cannot see something happening and know i can do something and not do, and say that the problem will eventually solve by itself. Doing something may not bring significant results or gratitude, but its like buying for yourself insurance or saving up for a rainy day. But this time, its not for yourself, its for others.

Doing it now because you know you can and its the right thing. You may or may not eventually save this life, but you would also never know if this thing you did might just be the thing that saves this life.

Everyone will come to a point in their lives when they feel they have reached satisfaction in life. I've made it.
Its also when you reflect on the people who have brought you to where you are today. The people who have made it possible. The people who were there during rainy days or the people who have placed insurance into your life. You will not remember those who chose to stay in their box and think,"why be a busybody? let nature take its course." or " i always knew it was bad, but i never said anything because i was afraid you may not like it."

Its easy for one to be sucked into the 'me' universe. But this is a world. The youth Olympics just ended. A celebration of nations coming together to compete in harmony.
The world is not just about you. If you are willing to step out of your box once in a while, you would realise that besides loving yourself. The world will be a much better place when people start to love others a little more.

I've lived through a bad childhood. When i see a child going down that road, i cant help but try my best to lend a helping hand. I may turn out fine, but the road was hard and bumpy. If i could choose, i rather not take that road and have someone who bothered to give me a helping hand.

Yes another child with a bad childhood may not face the exact situation as i. But if there is a 80% chance of it happening, by helping i am at least reducing the chance to 60%.

I remember a secondary school teacher telling us a story about a boy and the starfish. The starfish will like to come up the beach to rest. And when it becomes low tide, the starfish are left stranded on the beach and will dry up and die. This man saw a little boy picking up starfish and throwing them back into the sea. He said to the boy,"You won't be able to save them all. There are 1000s of them here. Save your energy."

The boy replied,"i know i cant save them all. But i can save this one..." and he picked up one starfish and threw it into the sea.

"And this one." he said again as he picked another starfish

"and this one."he said again as he picked another starfish