In life, there are many hurdles you gotta go through. You see someone go through it and you wonder. What would it be like if i went through it?

Like getting married, having a child, having your own home. When you see those who have gone through it, like in a blink of an eye, they go through it so easily. And you hope, if only in just a blink of an eye, i would be married, have children and have my own home.

Firstly, even finding the right person to marry is a process. You spend time guessing if he likes you. And he spends time courting you. And you decide if you want to accept him.

Then its getting to know each other. Being misunderstood and to be understood. Accepting habits and realising the initial perfection is gone and learning how to make your relationship work with its inperfections.

If i ever have to go over this stage again, it would be such a chore.

If he is not the right one, you gotta go through this stage all over again.

Now that i have past this stage, gotten married and have my own home...I see others getting married and having their own home. I look back and wonder how i went through all that. At this moment, it too seems to be like a blink of an eye. But when i go through each hurdle, it was a hard long process. With impatience, happiness, quarrels and acceptance.

I guess this is the sweet and bitter of life. The going through is bitter but the gone through is sweet.

My next hurdles? Getting through my degree in the next 2 years. Handling a crying baby at home.