Have you heard of the phrase,"Once i become a parent, i begin to understand how great my own parents are." ?

That phrase only applies to those who had parents who had direct good influence on who they are now.
Some parents are unfit parents, whose children gotta learn through life on their own. The hard way. Falling painfully and picking themselves up.

Then what comes to my mind when i become a parent? I think for someone to bring life into this world, your perspective in life changes. You want the best for your child. Not just in possessions but in character and upbringing. I want to give my child the best of my time, the best of my parenting and the best of my influences.

Then i think of the parents who think being a parent is just by the name in the birth cert, very unpardonable.

Every child is the future. Would he affect the world with his kindness or rudeness? Would he be the future president or toilet cleaner. It all depends on you.

I am very serious about a parent being responsible for the child's nurturing. And cannot comprehend those who 'let nature take its course'. Even wolves or lions nurture their young better.

In psychology, they say how u were brought up by your parents, you will also reflect the same style on your children. Psychology is not right all the time. Putting a stamp on parenting style just because psychology says so, is no different from leaving your life to fate.

I have a control over how i can change my life. If i had bad parents, i will learn how not to be like them. I will not let my children suffer like how i did.

When i worked in the hospital wards. How the parent treated their children, you can clearly see it by how the children treat them. If you see children all supportive and giving their time and expenses to their sick parent, you will find out later that this parent was a good parent. These children will tell you their parent went through alot when they were younger to bring them up.

Vice Versa...If you see children pushing the care to each other. No one seems to wanna take the responsibility of the patient. They will tell you that their parent never bothered about them when they were younger.

Of cos. You did all you can for your child, they will do whatever it takes to support you when you grow old.
But if you 'let mature take its course', so will they.