Letters to my son - Part 3

There were numerous times in my life where things happenned and i have people coming up to tell me..."i knew but felt it was best to mind my own business."

When you reach a point in your life where you experience what i have just said, you would know how frustrating it is. Sometimes being a good friend is telling the truth even when it hurts. My believe is that if i see someone falling into the fire, i will do my best to pull him out.

To know someone is in danger and allow them to walk into it without even trying, its just wrong. But that is different from being open about your opinions. For that, you have to choose the right time and place. That is someting i cant teach you, and its something you gotta learn through life.

But i feel it is always better out then in. Most problems humans face is miscommunication. Sometimes when its out in the open, you realise that by saying how you feel, helps the other person understand you better. And also you realise that what you were angry about isnt that bad. Back to the topic about walking away from being a busy body. Because i came from a dysfunctional childhood, my heart goes out to children who grow up without proper guidiance.

Someone once told me, for a problem kid to get out from his self destructive life, is someone who will stick by him and pick him up. In my life, i am grateful for friends who came along the way. Learning mistakes from others. And knowing the Lord Jesus. For this, your father and i have dedicated our life to nurturing your cousin. She needs to know, though she has a lousy father, your father is like a father to her. She needs to know that our home is where she can run to when she needs help.

No one can tell me, why bother? You dont have to worry about things so far away. Worry only when the problem comes. And even when the problem comes, the probem will be solved by itself. Son, we do not put our lives into the hands of fate. We are in control of our lives and we control how we lead our lives. Do not run away from problems but face up to them. Do not sweep them under the carpet cos eventually it will resurface one day. Pastor Kong of city harvest church once said, if you fail to plan, you plan to fail. And the difference between a successful person and an unsuccessful person, is someone who writes his plans down. Listen to me son, you need to plan for your life. Write it down. Dont say i will never fulfill them anyway.

In life, man cannot be stagnant. Man must change for the better. Improve. Without plans, you wont know your benchmark. How far you have come, how far behind or how much more you gotta move. To summarise, help when you can, plan for your future and speak the truth in love.